Tammy Endsley

09/13/1964 - 07/27/2020


The family of Tammy Endsley will celebrate her life of 55 years at 11:00 am on Saturday, August 1, 2020, at Victory Life Baptist Church. The family will host a time of fellowship and remembrance from 6:00 pm to 8:00 pm on Friday, July 31, 2020, at Lake Ridge Chapel and Memorial Designers. She passed away on Sunday, July 27, 2020. In support of the health of her family, face coverings are mandatory while attending the service and visitation. The service will be live-streamed and be available for thirty days on this page. You are encouraged to sign the virtual guestbook and share memories and expressions of sympathy by selecting the icon.

Our sweet Tammy was born, September 13, 1964, in Derby, Connecticut, to Sal and Darlene. She was their second child after her older brother Tony, followed by Tina, who arrived a year later. The family moved to Oklahoma, so Darlene could be closer to her Oklahoma roots. They lived in Clinton and then moved to Oklahoma City.

In 1972 Darlene married Rick Endsley. Rick was a knight in shining armor! He scooped up this readymade family with lots of love, fun, and adventure. Rick legally adopted the three children and soon, Amy was born and enjoyed the pampering of her older siblings. The family then moved to Lubbock, and that became home for Tammy.

Tammy attended Evans Junior High and Monterey High School, where she excelled as an honor student, served on the student council, and was a spunky cheerleader. Her hobbies were spending time with all of her friends, especially Jaquie and Traci, swimming in their backyard pool, cheering, hanging out with family, and doting on her baby sister, Amy. Tammy was known for her bubbly, outgoing, and positive personality. She loved music, getting her hair just right, and having much-animated fun with family and friends.

For Tammy’s high school prom she really wanted a special dress, unlike any other in Lubbock. Her adoring Dad, Rick Endsley, jumped into action, and they hopped on a plane to Dallas for a shopping spree. He wanted to get her the MOST unique dress so Tammy could be the Belle of the Ball! AND of course, she was!! She could’ve worn a burlap sack and still been the Belle of the Ball!!

Every birthday Tammy requested that her mom Darlene make a special cake. One time just before the big birthday dinner, the cake came out of the oven and fell apart. So Darlene laughed and dumped it in a bowl, put icing and a candle on it, and called it a DUMP CAKE. Tammy never requested a White Coconut Cake again.

Tony, Tammy, and Tina would walk home from elementary school together, carrying their metal lunch boxes. Tony carried Superman, Tina Frankenstein, and Tammy Barbie. Even though Tony was the oldest, the two sisters would gang-up on him. This day Tony was jacking with Tammy behind her, pushing her and she, having had enough, turned around and waylaid him right in the nose with her Barbie lunch box. With a bruised and bloody nose, Tony left her alone the rest of the walk.

Tammy spoiled little sister Amy with attention. When a storm would come and scare Amy, Tammy would clean out the closet and fill it with Amy’s toys and bring in snacks. The two sisters would huddle together and play while the storm passed.

Tammy graduated high school in 1983 and worked as a legal secretary at Carr, Evans, Fouts and Hunt.

Tammy loved working for Southwest Airlines! She was based in Phoenix and then Chicago. She fit right into this fast-paced life as she traveled across the country, making new friends and memories for eight years. Her friends jokingly teased, Tammy can never make it to Happy Hour on time, but she always made her work flight at 5 am.

Tammy was part of a “Pack” of girlfriends that had a great time together. One of her friends, Camille, had a handsome, exciting, entrepreneurial brother named Ben. Camille and Tina wanted to introduce these two beautiful people, and that’s where the magic started. Ben doted on her with flowers at her door in the morning, balloons on her car, notes, and special treats. Tammy fell head over heels for Ben and started attending shows and markets with him as he marketed his soon to be famous candles. Ben, with much foresight, had the brilliant idea to buy a building and land south of town on Slide to sell candles. Tammy left Southwest Airlines and decided to join Ben’s business venture. Tammy first wanted to name the gift shop Coyote Country Club; however, they decided on Coyote Candle Company, and a thriving business was born! Neither Tammy nor Ben had retail experience, they started going to markets together and discovered Tammy has a natural talent for design. They listened to their customers and gave them what they wanted, and the store grew to one of the most successful retail businesses in Texas. Tammy absolutely loved going with Ben to the Las Vegas Market and staying at the Trump Casino. Ben says customers always asked for Tammy by name. They specifically wanted her help because she has a way of making people smile and feel special.

Tammy and Ben were soulmates and shared not only their business but also a love for dogs. They have at least a dozen of the luckiest fur babies in all of Texas. Their first dog together was Bongo, then Rosie and then another and another. Pretty soon, the dog radar message center was sending out messages to all the dog friends that this was the best place in town for a dog to live. The dogs were part of the business and at the shop every day. They were in love with Tammy!

Ben has a passion for racing because his father and grandfather built race tracks and drag strips. Car racing is in Ben’s DNA. Tammy was introduced to racing and quickly developed the same passion. At one race, Tammy was jumping up and down so much, they all had to help her find her jewelry that had bounced off the bleachers. She loved going to the races! It didn’t matter how long her day was; she was always there to cheer on John Carney, Jake Bubak, and Ben’s team. I firmly believe they won ALL the races because Tammy was the best cheerleader EVER!

Ben and Tammy were in the process of building a home, and she had one very special request. Tammy was sooooo thoughtful! She insisted on having a gift-wrapping room. That girl never missed a gift-giving opportunity for family and friends.

Traveling continued to be a passion for Tammy with family trips to Hawaii, New York, Rhode Island, Cape Cod, and Israel. The spiritual experience in Israel gave Tammy a renewed focus. Her faith and Walk with Jesus took on a new light. She enjoyed attending church at Victory Life with her nephew, Brandon Endsley.

Tammy had a gift of making people feel special, especially the children in her life; her step-son, Corbin, nieces, and nephews were all showered with love, time, and attention. She played a major role in helping raise 3 of her nieces and nephews.  Shelby considered her a second mom and spent many summers with Ben and Tammy.  Brandon affectionately called her “Cake” as a child because she made him so many cakes. Shane, even though he was in Austin, could rely on Tammy having a pizza delivered to his door if he barely mentioned he was hungry.

It’s obvious when you visit Coyote Candle Company, the employer/employee relationship is more than business; it’s a family. Jokes, parties, celebrating, and affection for all is a daily practice. She sincerely loved and appreciated all the people that worked at Coyote Candle Company.

Tammy was fun, generous, beautiful, and notorious for being late! It was a running joke with family, friends and herself about being late. It really didn’t matter how late she arrived, because once she appeared, the room lit up with her vivacious personality and her bright smile. We all loved her so dearly.

Tammy was remarkable beauty, but her inner light was the sunshine to all those that knew her.

We will miss you sweetie!

Survivors include her spouse, Ben Aufill and son Corbin; father, Rick Endsley; mother, Darlene Odom; brother, Tony DiGiovanni his wife, Patsy and daughter Karli; sisters, Tina Rackler her husband, Kerry and son Brandon; Amy Endsley and children Shane and Shelby; Kimberly Ross her husband, Jeremy and sons Tyler and Blake Ross; and Erin Mata and sons Wyatt and Austin; sister-in-laws Camille McBride her husband, Scot and children Liam and Bradshaw, and Jennifer Aufill; and mother-in-law, Catherine Clement. Thousands of beloved friends and many fur babies.


The family of Tammy Endsley has designated the Animal Rescue of Crosby County (ARCC) for memorial contributions donated in her memory. For Flowers please send to Lakeridge Chapel in Lubbock, Tx.

Life Tribute


Location: Lake Ridge Chapel and Memorial Designers
Start Time:6:00 pm
End Time:8:00 pm

Funeral Service

Location: Victory Life Baptist Church
Start Time:11:00 am
End Time:12:00 pm



30 Comments on “Tammy Endsley”

  1. Our prayers to you Ben, family and friends of Tammy as our heart aches to hear of her passing. Please know we will be praying for you, for comfort and strength. God Bless.

    Gary, Sheryl and Aric Sooter
    858 Sooter Motorsports Team

  2. Prayers and Love for Tammy’s family.
    God blessed us all for time we had.

  3. We are so sorry to hear about Tammy’s unexpected passing, she was always such a joy to visit with.
    Our pray for you is that the love of our Heavenly Father, family and friends will comfort and strengthen you in the days ahead.

  4. Words seem so inadequate, I am heart broken for Ben, his family and Tammy’s family. I’m so sorry……so sorry……….Stacey May

  5. God Bless Tammy entire family. Ben my heart breaks for you. You and Tammy were so special and kind to Stacey and myself. Words are inadequate but hope you can feel our love. She was and still is an angel

  6. Ben and Tammy’s family…wishing all of you comfort and strength for the days and weeks ahead. I will be praying for you.

  7. Tammy was so very generous and kind. She always supported Lubbock Meals on Wheels’ events. We will miss her smile and compassion as I know all who knew her will as well. Our deepest sympathy goes to her family and friends. Wishing you all peace and comfort during this difficult time. Lubbock Meals on Wheels

  8. Our hearts were broken when we heard we lost Tammy. Such a kind, sweet lady! Always smiling and such a good person. Praying for Ben and her family. We will truly miss her!

  9. I’m still lost for words….. Tammy was so loving & caring in everything she did and will be terribly missed by so many. Ben, family, employees and friends, you are in my prayers during this very difficult time. I will forever cherish knowing her beautiful smile and laughter!

  10. Sending my love and prayers to Tammy’s family, Ben and his family, Coyote Candle Co. family and the many friends who were blessed to know her.
    She was one of my dearest best friends and I will cherish all the memories we had throughout the years. Will always remember her happy smile, silly giggle and warm, caring heart. Beautiful inside and out.
    Until I see you again, you will always be in my heart. Love you, Tambo.

  11. I wish I had words to express how deeply sorry I am over the loss of Tammy. She was such a precious person. I will remember her beautiful smile, her big bright eyes,her soft spoken voice and her cute little walk every time I go to CC. She was a big presence there and she will be missed by everyone who knew her. Ben, please know how truly sorry I am for you and all of those who loved her. My heart is broken for you all. Please know my heartfelt prayers are with you and your family now and the days ahead.

  12. My heart and prayers go out to Tammy’s family and friends. She was one of the most kind, compassionate, loving, and caring soul that I was privileged to call my friend. Truly pure of heart. Rest in peace angel. I will love you forever.

  13. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of Tammy’s loved ones in this tragic loss. We send our love and prayers. Neil and Karen Faulkner

  14. I was heartbroken to hear this news. I first met Tammy about 20 years ago when I wandered into this incredible business called Coyote Candle Co. . The moment I walked in I was greeted by this incredibly beautiful woman named Tammy. I have been shopping there ever since and Tammy has always made me feel like I was a very special customer. I believe she made all of us feel special . She was such a professional . She had a way of making you feel like family and she made the shopping experience one to remember. When you walk into that business, you feel Tammy whether she is there or not. We are always going to feel Tammy’s presence when shopping at Coyote Candle Co. My heart goes out to Ben, the family, her co-workers, friends and her animals. My most heartfelt condolences. ❤️ You Tammy. Always loved, never forgotten!

  15. I’m heartbroken over the news about my sweet friend Tammy and her beloved dog Buddy she adopted from our rescue ARCC. When I would go visit Tammy and Buddy at CCC she always gave me a special gift just because she was so thankful to have him! She had a heart of gold. I still remember the day Tammy adopted she is someone you never forget..she was head over heels in love the moment she saw him and couldnt take her eyes off of him. I told her his backstory and she just had to take him home and give him the best life ever …which she did!! She was such a kind and loving person that I will never forget..RIP Tammy and take care of Buddy like you always did……

  16. Tammy was a gift from God given to many who loved her and will miss her terribly. When someone dies so young, I’m reminded of this scripture.
    Isaiah 57:1-2
    57 Good people pass away;
    the godly often die before their time.
    But no one seems to care or wonder why.
    No one seems to understand
    that God is protecting them from the evil to come.
    2 For those who follow godly paths
    will rest in peace when they die.

    Prayers of comfort and peace for Ben, her family and friends during this time of unbearable grief and loss. Remembering Tammy with much love! Diane Pittman

  17. Brandon & Family,
    We are all sorry for the sudden and tragic loss of your beloved Aunt/family member.
    May God give you His strength and love during this time. You and your family are in our hearts, thoughts, and prayers.

  18. Miss Tammy…..You were the apple of everyone’s eye. You lit up a room when you walked in. ALWAYS—Always looking like a million bucks. It has been a while since I seen you– but I WILL SEE YOU AGAIN. You are already terribly missed by so many. Wish things had turned out differently…. May God hold you in his arms & wrap his arms around all those who love you…❤😔

  19. My heart goes out to all of the Coyote Candle family, friends and family of this beautiful woman, and Ben especially. I had the pleasure of interacting with Tammy on multiple occasions while shopping at Coyote Candle. She always made me feel so welcome and was so sweet and kind… always walking around just cute as a button…this bubbly, cheerful woman… with such a beautiful smile. I’m glad I had the pleasure of meeting her. I pray that God comforts all of her loved ones hearts and provides you all with strength to sustain you. My thoughts and prayers are with you all daily.
    Heather-Lauren Aldridge

  20. Tammy was a sweetheart …wonderful lady with heart for all that she meet…our prayers are with you all …God bless you all know she was a gift to us all of you too…hkpp

  21. Ben, family & friends… I’m deeply sorrow for your loss. Tammy was so full of life and lived it to the fullest. She left her mark on all she touched. Praying God grants you solace and comfort in the days ahead.

  22. Ben, We send our love and prayers during this very difficult time. Steve & Ann Lisemby

  23. Ben, family, and friends, we will be praying for you all in the days and months to come. Tammy was so sweet, and kind. She was always smiling when I went to CC. I know she will be missed terribly by all who knew and loved her!

    Love and prayers,
    Tony and Shelly Peña

  24. Our heartfelt prayers go out for you Ben and your family. As many have said, Tammy just had a way about her to make everyone feel special. As a sales rep calling on your store I always looked forward to my visit because everyone there seemed happy to be there. No doubt the positive atmosphere in large part came from Tammy’s ability to make everyone smile just by her being in the room. She will be missed by many here, but multitudes welcomed her upon her arrival in heaven. Our prayer for you is for strength and peace in the coming days.

  25. Heartfelt sympathy to Ben and the Coyote Candle family. Tammy was such a beautiful blessing.

  26. Tammy was such an important person to me and all my family. She was so special and always so sweet to my Randy when he worked there and at Ben’s Muffler shop. Tammy was just so full of life she will will always be in our hearts. Love you Tammy and Ben my heart hurts for you and Corbin. Take care. Love you Charlie and Barney

  27. Ben,
    Anyone that was lucky enough to have meant Tammy really were blessed in life. She will always be a beautiful soul to me. Her kindness and caring nature will be missed on this earth. I know nothing I can say can bring you comfort, but just know that I am here for you. I have always considered you and Tammy as wonderful people. Although I only got the privilege to see you and Tammy twice a year it has always been a moment of happiness and joy. I can honestly say that no one has ever been so kind to me as Tammy. I will truly miss her, but I have faith that Heaven has a new beautiful Angel! To Tammy’s family that I never had the opportunity to meet I am sorry for your loss. You brought into this world a wonderful and beautiful human being that was kind and caring to others. May you all find peace and you have my condolences.

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