Holidays often trigger intense emotions in the hearts of those who have lost someone special. Valentine’s Day is no exception, especially for Texans who have experienced the death of a spouse or romantic partner. Whether the romance lasted 5 years or 50, this day can feel like a shock to the system. Our dedicated staff at Lake Ridge Chapel & Memorial Designers has walked alongside many people throughout West Texas as they’ve grieved and moved toward healing.
Here are some tips from our team to help you get to the other side of the romantic holiday.
Meet up with friends.
“Galentine’s Day” (or February 13th) is a recently created holiday to celebrate female friendship. Spending time with friends – both men and women – is a special way to enjoy Valentine’s Day. Gather in a restaurant for a meal or get together at someone’s house to play cards or watch a lighthearted film.
When you’re in the midst of grief, it’s easy to neglect taking care of yourself. Set aside some time and money to do something special that will make you feel nourished and loved this time of year. Whether it’s booking a massage at a local spa or ordering takeout from your favorite restaurant, plan ahead, relax, and enjoy yourself.
Celebrate your loved one.
Consider spending some time this Valentine’s Day remembering your loved one in a unique way. Write them a love letter that includes special memories you shared, place a bouquet of red roses atop their grave or memorial, or play their favorite music while you make dinner. Whatever it is that brings you closer to your loved one, make time this holiday to do it.
Try something different.
Thinking back on memories of the past is a great way to honor your loved one. Yet there are also times that nostalgia can keep you from connecting with the people who are in your life right now. To avoid staying “stuck” in the past, plan to do something different and new this Valentine’s Day. Whether it’s visiting a friend you haven’t seen in years or exploring a park you’ve never been to in West Texas, do your best to open up to the experience.
Any complicated emotions brought on by Valentine’s Day will likely continue after the holiday has ended. Remember that there is no timeline when it comes to getting over a loss and that everyone copes with grief in their own way. If you find you need extra support, contact our compassionate staff. We will be happy to connect you to grief services, professional counselors, or a partner loss group in West Texas.