Self-care is paramount when grieving the death of a loved one, but it’s easy to forget yourself when the pain of a loss feels overwhelming. The holiday season can exacerbate these feelings, no matter how long it has been since losing your loved one. There are many ways to tend to your own well-being during this time. The Lake Ridge Chapel & Memorial Designers staff members recommend grieving individuals focus on health and wellness while grieving, especially during the holidays.

Be gentle with yourself.

Grief, especially when it involves the death of a loved one, disrupts the routine structure of our days. Try not to feel guilty adjusting your schedule while grieving, especially during the holidays when it’s easy to overextend yourself with so many social events and festivities happening. This holiday season may not be the one when you host a large social gathering or travel to see out-of-town family members. Remember that your grief will continue to change and you with it.

Alter your celebrations.

Do your best to adjust your holiday celebrations to suit your energy levels. Though it might be tempting to cancel the holiday and forego any traditions that bring your loved one to mind, it’s likely more beneficial to acknowledge the holiday to some degree. Isolating yourself completely from others at this time may intensify your grief. Instead, aim to balance downtime and social time.

Focus your attention on helping others.

Those struggling with grief often find peace in devoting their time and attention to others. Consider volunteering at a local food bank, ringing a Salvation Army bell, or donating your time to any other worthwhile cause. The Red Cross, YMCA, Meals-on-Wheels, and numerous non-profits accept new volunteers at this time of year. If you’re lacking motivation to take the leap, ask a friend or family member if they’d like to join you in your volunteering efforts.

Connect with family and friends. 

Though it may be appealing to spend time alone and at home while you’re grieving, connecting with others can soothe intense feelings of sadness. Even if it’s just a phone call, reaching out to those you love can help you feel better and ease any worry your loved ones may be experiencing regarding your well-being. If you feel up to it, attend selective holiday festivities, especially those your loved one enjoyed.

Holiday grief can feel impossible at times. If you need support in your grief, contact our caring staff. We will connect you with in-person or online grief resources, from professional counselors and grief therapists to grief support groups.